What many individuals don't understand is that by reliving their experiences repetitiously, the mind tricks the body into believing the experience is real. The body reacts accordingly and prepares itself for fight mode. Over a period of time, you actually tax your body by putting it into what Walter Cannon called the "Fight or Flight Syndrome", where you keep creating adrenaline rushes which tax the central nervous system. Given time, the body could actually suffer from what Hans Selye found in his General Adaptation Syndrome model. In a very condensed form, this model asserts that the more we are in this "high state of alert" posturing, the more we drain ourselves and weaken our immune systems possibly causing serious or permanent damage. This produces tremendous feelings of frustration, anxiety and a lifestyle of always feeling "stressed out"! If this doesn't produce or lead to clinical diagnoses of mental health disorders such as Generalized Anxiety Disorders, panic attacks and depression, these feelings are most likely very real and this is when individuals drink or drug to cope with or mask these symptoms. When this goes on for prolonged time frames, the individual is more likely to develop a concurrent disorder.

In my book What's Your Anger Type? I also discuss another type of anger closely resembling the by-products that petrified anger produces. This is called Resistant/ Passive Anger. The bottom line with this anger type is that individuals never feel good about themselves. The world is always unfair to them. They were dealt a bad hand of cards. There is some sort of conspiracy going on where everyone is against them. They just don't understand why things are the way things are. They have developed a method of self-defeating thinking and they have trapped themselves in a lazy, irrational, stereotypical way of perceiving the world.

Like petrified anger, resistant/passive anger leads individuals to develop a more passé approach to situations and people. Even though they do not like what others are doing to them or what is happening to them, they refuse to say something or correct the situation externally. They are conflict avoidant. Instead, they internalize their negative thoughts and feelings over the situation and allow them to fester. Even though they are angry and/or disagree with others, they don't say anything.


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